Dilemma
My 10 year high school reunion is in September sometime. I'm trying to decide if I should go. My gut reaction is no, because I'm not that close to anyone I went to high school with. I talk to exactly one of my old friends, and even that is basically limited to the occasional Facebook message.
I don't know. I didn't hate high school like a lot of people did, but I didn't love it, either. And I don't see the point in going back. Unless there's an open bar. I could get behind that.
So do you guys do high school reunions? Are they more fun than I think they'd be?
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I missed my five year reunion (ex hid the invitation---he didn't want me to go). I went to the ten year reunion and was voted most likely to stay single or something----I had been married for 8+ years----he didn't come, I didn't invite him.
I went to my 15 year reunion, too. I wanted to prove to people that I had done more in my life in five years than I had in the 10 before that. (New husband, a child, new home, etc....) I got treated just like I had been treated when we were in high school I felt like those people had never grown up and let go of their little cliques. Since I wasn't popular and was barely tolerated in high school, that is how I was treated at the reunion. I wasn't happy that I had spent time and money to go.
I didn't get an invitation for my 20 or 25th. I don't know if I would have gone or not.
This year is my 20th & I'm not going. I wasn't good friends with THAT many people in my year, either the year ahead or the year behind me. I do plan on going with my girl, Z, for moral support. It will be her 20th reunion.
We''ve got some demons to chase down at that place & we've got a little over a year to get psyched up for it.
Um, to answer your question, and NOT make this all. about. me? If you think you will have a good time, GO. If not? Stay home. It ain't worth the drama.
I got mine for the 20 year... LOL, old fart, eh? Decided I was going to go, but then work told me different. C'est la vie. I only keep in touch with a half dozen folks anyways. I just wanted to go to the 20 year because there were a few people in my class that have done some wildly exciting things that I wanted to ask them about.
Two or three of them have had sci-fi stuff published in the Dungeons and Dragons era, one was the head of the Chicago School District (I think), and a few others did some really neat stuff. I'm a people person, so I just wanted to go see what the people I knew then turned out to be. Same or different than what I'd expected.
My goal for going to my upcoming reunion is the opportunity to make peace with any unfinished business from high school. While my high school years were not the highlight of my life, I think it is something I want to experience. I don't want to look back years later and wonder "What if?"
So I think it depends on your reason for going ~ If your gut is saying no, then maybe it's not the right time for this blast from your past..
10 was a great time.
20 was FANTASTIC! The best yet!
Seriously - people grow up and it's nice to see the cliques dissolve.
My 10 year reunion was six years ago. The only reason why I remotely considered going was a friend of mine was helping organize it. I didn't go. I managed to catch up with her later, and she understood my reasons, so I felt better.
High school was not terrible for me. I managed to survive it because I flouted the cliques a lot-- I wasn't too fussy over who were my friends. I got a huge amount of respect from some of the jocks because although band was my main thing, I turned out for football my senior year, just for kicks.
Some of my friends, however, were not as kind. "There is NO ONE I want to see," one told me, "except So-And-So." "So-And-So" was a girl that managed to break through his shell of introversion and pay some attention to him. He had also made a habit of mocking a mutual friend, back in the day, who grew some social butterfly wings (one teacher blamed that on me, hehe) and turned out for the cheerleading team.
He's still a friend, but it's a painful reminder that some are very slow to grow out of cliquish behavior (that I can see)-- even the ones traditionally picked on.
There's a reason people laugh at office and workplace humor. In some ways, it's Cliques 2.0.